The task of bringing up children is a heavy deliberation and an enthusiastic endeavour. It is both a strain and a pleasure. It is plausible and untenable.Begetting them is a comparatively facile process. But bringing them up is an herculean enterprise.
Children are like soft petals. They are like a liquid. The property of the liquid is that it assumes the shape of the container. It isso flexible and extremely pliable. Liquid do not profess a stiff exterior. It is smooth , delinquent and free flowing. It can be accumulated collected without effort and distributed without labour.
So are the lovely children. They are so beautiful, lovely and cheerful. Their mind is free .They can assimilate any syllabus and integrate with evidences . ,with fine tact and diligence. The leading hand , mostly that of the mother , should be eligible, evaluative, and responsible . The modem ,so as to term the disciplined scrutiny of the mother, should be severe and simple, should be strict and kind, should be attentive and careless, should be fastened and loose, should be following and distanced and should be punitive and forgiving .
My harangue may seem to be a resemblance of the impossible. It may sound implausible. It may be a combination of the positive and the negative. But , in reality , only this recipe will hold water. This is my experience of bringing up three boisterous boys.
The children should have a constant feeling that somebody is behind you, some person is hovering above you, of some eyes watching you. A regular look up of their activities, an occasional enthusiastic remark of their performance, a little coaxing when they tend to be sluggish , a brief cajoling when they feel let down , mild chiding when they slip. a a rancour address when they fall short of expectation , a rigorous remonstration when they show irreverence and even a bash or a slap when they talk back , go a long way in moulding up the little ones.
This programme has to be meticulously taken up by the parents , more so by the mothers till the children reach the age of twenty, till they become mature, till they understand the horrid world . Then .gradually the tightening can be relaxed . The adults would have , by now become promising youngsters and would have reached a stage , totally insulated from wild and rash habits. They would no longer succumb to demonish ,derogatory symptoms.
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