An intention to help
a thought of kindness
could be misconstrued
as an indulgence uncalled
leaving the good heart
disillusioned and disappointed .
Go with an open hand
with an equally open heart
say the wise and experienced
easy to say than be done
sanguine be the face
yet the heart bleeds.
Kindness when misunderstood
makes one wary and cautious
there goes the saying in Tamil
“பாத்திரம் அறிந்து பிச்சைப் போடு”
know the situation and render help
an apt adage for philanthropy 
Meenas Poems 