I happen to be in my native place for a couple of days , last week.It was a pleasant get together, meeting young and old, exchanging niceties and enquiring about their health.
It was a hectic schedule dotted by interesting information. One peculiar thing , I found during this sojourn was cases of divorce. My place is known for its conservative ideologies and is steeped in traditional customs. In this modern age , a place like my own ,will stand out for its regulations and discipline. To hear about divorce ,in such a place sounded sacrilegious to me. Yet ,there were many incidents of the legal separation.
Dissolving the marriage , once regarded as a transgression, has become an accepted form now. The reasons for severance, looked appaling in certain cases, appeared deep in others, but most exhibited flimsy and frivolous sentiments ,that could have been well avoided , if little measure of endurance was pushed in.
Th firm attributes for dissolution is impotency and behavioural tendency. The impotency factor if found true, the marriage will not be able to go further. But , if it is listed falsely ,then strong counselling has to be activated and unity should be advised. The behavioural factor of excessive smoking, consuming spurious drinks, and addiction to drugs are also cited as causes for separation. The excess could be minimised by tending the eccentricity in a plausible manner and exploring possible ways to stop the practice.
Other minor evidences of coming late after work, looking after parents, living in a joint family, spending time with friends and taking life easily are simple disturbance ,which should be discussed by the concerned . A way out , or a remedy could be easily tracked and adjustments can be accommodated suitably.
I came home with the usual well being , which I develop when I visit my people, but this time , I felt , the pride ,of my homeland ,as a class apart from the rest of the world, has been lost. It has also got diffused with the multitude,totally vanished in the fumes.
I feel sad , and am extremely pained to be a silent spectator in this narrow world od envy, deceit ,self conceit, greed and prejudice.